Let these questions be a door way to encourage and nurture open and honest communication within your marriage. This is a way to connect on a deeper level and grow together in unity. Try not to rush through the questions but take the time to be vulnerable, transparent, and truly listen your spouse with your eyes, ears, and without interrupting.
Here is the one rule before starting: this is NOT grounds to start a fight, state your point, put your spouse down, or get upset, rather, this is an opportunity to respectfully hear each other’s hearts while you seek peace, love, healing, and unity together.
Has God put His finger on some aspect of our marriage that needs attention? What is it and what do you believe he wants from us?
Do you see me growing more Christ like as the years go on? How can I improve?
Do we work together spiritually to your satisfaction? What could improve that?
Have I helped you become more mature spiritually? In what ways?
Do you ever think that I don’t respect you? In helpful and careful terms explain why you perceive that.
Are you suffering internally or emotionally in any way? What is it? How can I come along side of you and help?
Do you think our children and friends see our marriage as beautiful? Why or why not?
What do you most wish we could do in the future to make an impact on our world for Christ together?
Marital Challenge: Creating a Vision for you Marriage
Where are we now? Where are we going? What is our vision? –Jimmy Evans
We encourage you to set aside time, whether it’s a weekend getaway or a few nights out (without kids) to seek the Lord together in prayer and in the Scriptures. Earnestly ask the Lord to impart vision on behalf of your marriage and family. The idea is to create a vision so that you have purpose, meaning, and a mission in marriage. It’s vital for the health of your marriage to identify any current stumbling blocks, come into agreement with each other and with the Lord, and work toward a unified vision for your marriage and family. Knowing Gods design and purpose for your marriage will help you stay focused as a team and fulfill the Great Commission.
“Where there is no vision the people perish.” Proverbs 29:18
All for His Glory,
- JR and Becca